United States Federal Government
Collaboration to Stop and Prevent Bullying
StopBullying.gov is an official U.S. Government Web site managed by the Department of Health & Human Services in partnership with the Department of Education and Department of Justice. The website contains several excellent resources for parents, including:
Bully-proofing My Child - Bullying is not a normal rite of passage. It can have serious consequences. You can help your child learn how to prevent bullying. Click here to read six tips to help bully-proof your child.
My Child is Being Bullied - When children are involved in bullying, it is important for parents to be willing to take action. Children often do not tell their parents that they are being bullied because they are embarrassed or frightened. If you suspect your child is being bullied or your child brings it up, click here to consider taking these steps.
My Child Might Be Bullying Others - Although it is hard for most parents to hear about their child's negative behavior, parents of children who bully must work closely with the school to resolve the situation. Parents need to remember that children who bully are at high risk for engaging in risky or even criminal behaviors, and it is very important in a bullying situation for the parents to act immediately. If you think that your child may be bullying others, click here to read about some action steps you can take.
Working with the School & Community - All adults in a community have a responsibility to help keep kids safe and stop bullying among children, teens and young adults. How can you get involved? Click here to find out.
Bullying and Victimization:
What Adults Can Do
The United States Department of Agriculture, working in cooperation with the University of Nebraska-Lincoln, has developed an excellent resource titled: “Bullying and Victimization: What Adults Can Do.” Summarized below are 10 principles the authors recommend that parents and/or adult can do to help prevent and stop bullying.
The most effective bullying prevention involves cooperation among teachers, schools, parents and communities. Prevention techniques tend to work best if there is a long-term commitment. There are simple things that adults can do to help…
- Know where to look for bullying.
- Set up a way for kids to confidentially report bullying and ensure that adults promptly respond.
- Set up clear expectations. Adults who consistently make sure kids know what bullying is and make it clear that it is not tolerated tend to have fewer problems.
- Intervening helps (when bullying occurs).
- Recruiting peer volunteers to support the victim and look out for them can be successful.
- Be careful when using peer interventions such as having victims talk directly to bullies, as this may not resolve the problem.
- Place students into small groups and encourage them to come up with effective ways for victims to interact with bullies while teaching them conflict resolution skills.
- Keep records and discuss problems with colleagues.
- Know what the [bullying] policies are in your state, school, program, or other setting you are working in.
- If your child is a victim of bullying, take his/her report seriously and do not attribute issues to normal childhood experience.
To read the entire manual: “Bullying and Victimization: What Adults Can Do,” click here and/or see: Buhs, E.S. & de Guzman, M. (2007). "Bullying and Victimization: What Adults Can Do. Lincoln", NE: University of Nebraska-Lincoln.
Make time to listen:
Talk about bullying
The United States Department of Health and Human Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration has developed an excellent resource for parents titled: “Make Time To Listen...Take Time To Talk...ABOUT BULLYING.” Through a series of questions and statements on index cards, parents and caregivers are provided conversation starters to help begin meaningful dialogue about the critical issue of bullying and the prevention of bullying.
Did you know that research has found that remarkable things can happen if parents and caregivers spend at least 15 minutes of undivided time a day listening and talking with their children? Research also tells us that children really do look to their parents and caregivers for advice and help about difficult choices and decisions.
Whether focused on bullying or on general principles [of healthy development and behavior], the messages exchanged between children and their parents and caregivers in just these 15 minutes or more a day can be instrumental in building a healthier and safer future for children as individuals, family members, and active and engaged participants in the life of their communities.
- These cards are to be used to start conversations about bullying and bullying prevention.
- Feel free to adapt the questions to your own conversational styles.
- The questions are designed to generate open and honest discussions. Please be careful to respect any concerns or sensitive issues raised by the answers.
- If problems arise, please read the additional materials provided by this project, take a break and talk about the issue later, or seek the help of a mental health professional.
To download “Make time to listen: Talk about bullying,” click here and/or see: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, Center for Mental Health Services www.samhsa.gov.